Women! We need to take a lesson from men on how to properly use the art of competition. Yes, they have done one thing right since the beginning of time. That's the only thing I will admit to at the moment. Must retain balance and order in the battle of the sexes. Competition is healthy if done correctly, and from my stand point, I don't see women using it correctly 90% of the time. Men compete to prove that they are dominant exactly as they are. Women compete to try and fill a void they think is within themselves. Wrong! You want to be the best that YOU can be, not trying to be the best at every damn thing just cause another gal is doing something right for herself! Let that girl get hers and you just get yours.
I'm sick of women feeling like they have to constantly compare themselves to each other. I used to do it and it ate away at my soul. We are not meant to be like anyone else. Why are we constantly trying to attain something that is absolutely not right for us? There is only so much time we have on this Earth, so we need to stop wasting it attacking others that are only being and doing what God put them here for. Be passionate about what really makes you happy. You are not going to be any happier trying to be really good at something you never wanted to do.
One more thing. Stop trying to be what you think everyone else thinks beautiful is. Here's a clue...beauty is fluid; you're not going to figure out what anyone else will find beautiful. It will never be just one standard. Even if a magazine tries to tell you it is and force it down your throat that you are flawed, you just tell that voice in your head to shut its dirty mouth and move the fuck on. That archaic bullshit of how we find our self-worth has to stop. We have become so much more than anyone "back then" wanted us to be. It's about time we start acting accordingly, ladies.
Throughout my life I've been made fun of because I'm short, I have too fair of skin, my butt is too big, I'm loud and obnoxious, I had crooked teeth, therefore had braces, which led to duck lips...I could go on and on, but it's pointless really. Most of those things were temporary and the rest I have learned to embrace as my own unique beauty. Everyone has the mean voices still in their head. I still hear those words and see the people that said them. I'm over all that shit. I have faced the fact that it was merely building me into who I am. I will never again waste time wanting to be someone I'm not and I will not apologize for who I am.
For the women that can hear what I'm saying, just stop it. Love yourself just the way you are at this moment. Once you can just accept you and realize that what you have is good enough, then everything else in life comes together. There are people that love you with everything they have and those are the people that you need to be around. The negative people will need to be removed from your life. If they refuse to stop hurting you with their words, then you don't need them. You don't need that kind of "tough love". Don't let them damage you beyond repair. I know there are going to be some people that can't be saved. It's hard to drop bad habits and learn new behaviors. You just have to be willing to open your eyes.
I want every woman in my life to feel the way I feel about myself. I'm willing to help, if you're willing to let me. At this moment in my life, I am the happiest I have ever been in every aspect of my life. It's taken a lot of work, but I've gotten there. I am happy as a wife, mother, friend, family member, employee or whatever other label people have thrown upon me. Every day is a toss up but how I face my trials has changed, and that has been the biggest victory of all my battles.